Sexual Addiction Self-Screening Quiz If you are uncertain as to whether you might be a sex addict, the following quiz is designed help. This test is similar to the twenty-question quiz that Alcoholics Anonymous offers to help people decide if they are alcoholic. A scoring key can be found at the end of the test. Please answer yes or no to the following 15 questions. In doing so, you should consider your entire sexual history, not just recent events. In other words, if you were using porn three years ago but lately your issue has been escorts, you should still take your porn use into account. 1. Do you find that sexual fantasy, seeking sex, and having sex have become more important in your life than other things that you need (and probably want) to focus on, such as work, family, and nonsexual hobbies? Yes 2. Do you ever regret amount of the time you spend fantasizing about, searching for, and engaging in sex? Yes 3. Have you promised yourself that you will stop visiting certain sexual websites, using certain sexual apps, or engaging in certain real world sexual activities, only to find yourself back there again anyway? Yes 4. If you are in a committed relationship, do you repeatedly find yourself engaging in secretive sexual affairs or casual sexual activities (online and/or real world)? Yes 5. Do you find yourself habitually going online, looking for sex, and “losing yourself” for long periods of time, even when you don’t have time and your clear intention is to only be online for a few minutes? Yes 6. Has your obsessive focus on finding and having sex reduced your ability to focus on and “be present” with your romantic partner, family, friends, spirituality, work, school, recreational activities, and/or other important aspects of life? Yes 7. Do you lie and keep secrets from those close to you about your sexual pursuits and behaviors (online and/or real world)? Yes 8. Has your obsessive focus on finding and having sex created negative consequences in your life – ruined relationships, trouble at work or in school, depression, isolation, anxiety, loss of interest in previously enjoyable activities, financial woes, legal issues, declining physical health, etc.? Yes 9. Do you cover up and hide aspects of your sexual life (online and/or real world), hoping to avoid consequences that might occur if you are discovered or found out? Yes 10. If you are in a committed relationship, would your partner/spouse say that your sexual activity violates the underlying agreements surrounding the relationship (if he or she knew everything)? Yes 11. Has your sexual behavior (online and/or real world) caused you to lose anyone or anything important in your life – romantic relationship, family, career, school, money, self-esteem, community standing, etc.? Yes 12. Have you ever been arrested, stopped by security, or otherwise formally warned or reprimanded because of your sexual behavior? Yes 13. Do you view illegal sexual imagery or engage in illegal sexual activity (exhibitionism, voyeurism, prostitution, illegal pornography, etc.)? Yes 14. Has your partner, your family, your employer, or a friend ever complained or expressed concern about the nature and/or the extent of your sexual activity? Yes 15. Do you become defensive, angry, or extremely ashamed when asked to look at, give up, or reduce your sexual activities (online and/or real world)? Yes SCORING: If you did not answer yes to any of these questions, you are probably not a sex addict. If you answered yes to one or two questions, you are at-risk for sexual addiction. If you answered yes to three or more of the questions, there is a definite possibility that you are sexually addicted. If you want to seek professional help for sex addiction, therapist and treatment referrals can be found here and here. If you would like to learn more about sex addiction in general, check out my recently published books, Always Turned On: Sex Addiction in the Digital Age and Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction. IMPORTANT: An affirmative answer to question 13, regarding illegal sexual behavior, is always a problem, even if you’re not a sex addict. If you answered yes to that question, you should absolutely seek confidential advice from a professional counselor who is skilled in handling such issues. If/when you do this, be aware of the fact that psychotherapists and other helping professionals have reporting requirements (that vary from state to state) when it comes to illegal sexual behaviors. You need to find out what these requirements are before you talk in detail about you’ve been doing.PhoneThis field is for validation purposes and should be left unchanged.